Someone recently asked me which of my books they should read beyond Different Loving. Without hesitation, I recommended my Truth About Sex series. Here’s why these works matter more than ever.
Sex and Gender Conformity Is A Myth
After years of intensive academic research, the data tells us something revolutionary: sex and gender diversity are the norms, not the exceptions. The “sex and gender are binary”conformity theory we’re constantly sold is pure mythology.
Genetics and human history don’t lie. The evidence shows us that variation is literally built into our species. What we label as “alternative” lifestyles today have existed across cultures and millennia. When you understand this fundamental truth, everything about human sexuality clicks into place.
Science Gives Us Reality, Not Myth
The science of sex isn’t particularly sexy, but it’s absolutely key to understanding WHY sex IS sexy and how people have actually lived their sexual lives throughout history—not how cult leaders, religious zealots, and politicians believe — or PRETEND to believe — that other people “should” live them.
The narrow boxes we’re told to fit into are recent inventions that ignore millennia of human experience. Medical and academic research abundantly reveal that human sexual expression has always been diverse, fluid, and wonderfully complex. This was the backbone of The Truth About Sex series. To write it, I spent 10 years reading primary sources in medical and academic journals to build an interdisciplinary, scientific picture of real sexuality. For example, I made the first scientific case for why masturbation is the world’s most normal and common sexual behavior, presenting interdisciplinary evidence (not just correlations) showing that this simple act of self-pleasure is vital to human health.
Why This Changes Everything
Understanding sexual and gender diversity as normal transforms how we see ourselves and others.
This means:
- Your desires don’t need approval from outdated rulebooks.
- Relationship structures can be as varied as the people in them.
- Sexual expression exists on a spectrum, not within rigid categories.
Most importantly, shame dissolves when replaced with scientific understanding. If you base your life on evidence rather than ideology, you free yourself to explore what actually works for your individual relationships and identities — and not other people’s! YOU! That is the fundamental concept behind SEXUAL FREEDOM.
The Research-Based Solution
This is precisely why I wrote The Truth About Sex series Vol 1 Sex and the Self and Vol 2 Sex for Grownups.
These two books cut through decades of cultural mythology to reveal what the research reveals about human sexuality. No propaganda, no moral judgments—just the fascinating, liberating truth about how we work as sexual beings.
The first two volumes challenge everything you think you know about sex, relationships, and identity. Because when you understand the science, you understand yourself. And that means you can, at long last, become the AUTHENTIC version of yourself.
