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Censorship and shadowbanning continue to shrink the Internet’s coverage of human sexuality, but I persist in my mission. The truth about sex will always be my priority. You can’t know what censors have hidden from you! Social media platforms actively censor my writing, while Amazon hides my newest book. I know they’ve done the same to many of my colleagues and sex-positive organizations. Sex itself is under assault.

I now direct most of my thoughts on controversial subjects—from sexual health and kink to LGBTQIA++ issues—to my newsletter, which stands as my last bastion for straightforward sex science news. My newsletter includes my analyses, personal reflections, and enlightening links.

If you haven’t subscribed yet, check out these morsels from the last newsletter and a couple of previews from the upcoming one (March 19).

The Neil Gaiman Controversy

“During a recent counseling session, a client shared her profound disillusionment with Neil Gaiman. The widely reported allegations of serial abuse had shattered her previous admiration, bringing to light a critical issue that extends far beyond one author’s misconduct: the fundamental importance of genuine, informed consent in intimate relationships.

“The allegations against Gaiman expose a disturbingly common pattern among sexual predators: reflexive denial and self-serving defense. When confronted with accounts from eight women describing traumatic encounters, Gaiman’s response was typical—dismissing serious allegations by claiming “it was just BDSM!” This attempt to cloak non-consensual brutality behind the language of kink is a tactic as old as abuse itself.

“I closely followed and blogged about a few other infamous creeps who nonconsensually did kinky things to women, most notably Armie Hammer — you can hear the podcast I recorded with the Alarmist about him — but hadn’t delved into Gaiman’s story. So I’ve been reading up on the allegations this past week. I found several articles that nailed the very problems I’ve written about on the issues of informed consent, the hallmark of BDSM relationships. 

“What Gaiman shrugged off as BDSM was clearly systematic abuse.…”

Coming in the March 19th Newsletter.

A headline that has NOT been getting the least bit of traction popped up in the JAMA Network (the newsletter of the Journal of the American Medical Association) last week.   Unless you subscribe to the JAMA Network, you won’t get to read the full study, either.   You can, however, see the abstract, “Addressing the Double Bind of Women’s Anger after Trauma,” on the JAMA site.

(Sign up now for the 3/19/25 newsletter to see excerpts from the study along with my professional opinions of how the results impact us all.)

Sex News You Should See

Healthline 8 Foods to Lower Risk of Erectile Dysfunction

The Guardian Bacterial vaginosis can be passed to women by men, researchers find

YourTango 6 Things Wives Should Never Feel Forced To Do For Their Husbands

For fun, here’s a link from the upcoming edition of the newsletter.

The Truth About the Sex Lives of Dinosaurs was just published by The Smithsonian. Holy paleontology! Dinosaur lovers everywhere will be delighted by this peek into the monster lizards’ mating habits.

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