It’s fun to get direct BDSM questions from magazines. They are few and far between these days. So big thanks to Men’s Health for going to new places and asking me, “what is a Soft Dom?”
My POV
“A soft dom could…be described as ‘a dominant person who likes being in control, but prefers a more compassionate, empathic, even gentle approach,’ says Gloria Brame, PhD, an award-winning sex therapist, sexologist, and best-selling author. “This means they still lead the scene and direct their partner, but do it with kindness and care.”
The other expert for this story is Dulcinea Alex Pitagora, an NYC-based psychotherapist, sex therapist, and BDSM expert. The editor interwove our unique advice in skillful ways!
Read the full story: What Is A Soft Dom? The BDSM Term, Explained By Experts
Still, We’ve Always Had a Soft Side
A train of thought that didn’t fit into the article is that some forms of fetish play have always involved a “soft dom.” There are some sissies, for example, who want to be punished; and there are some who just want to be teased. In age play fetishes, foot fetishes, and, really, almost all fetishes — including bondage, of course — some people have always preferred the sensuality and mind voyage of tactile painless pleasure over painful pleasure.
